Lab #11

Part One

  • Can Siblings Change your Personality?
  • Birth Order and Brains
  • Thanks Sis! How Siblings have effected your personality
  • Being First Born Makes You Smarter
  • How to Blame your Faults on your Siblings
  • It’s All my Brother’s Fault
  • The Sibling Effect
  • Sibling Symmetry
  • Does your Birth Order Change who you are?
  • Sibling Rivalry: Why do we fight?

Part Two

Middle children are often flexible and understanding, nevertheless they are known to be quite competitive (Gross). They often feel that they don’t receive much attention from their family and they will create a close circle of friends to make up for this (Gross). They are often found in careers that involve negotiation because in these types of jobs they also receive the attention that their family didn’t give them enough of (Gross).

The last born child is typically the one getting all of the attention the middle child lacks, usually because they are outgoing, manipulative, fun-loving, self-centered, attention seeking, and uncomplicated (Voo). They are often considered to be free spirits because of the parents more relaxed attitude that is common once they’ve had multiple children (Voo). Youngest children are often quite independent because parents tend to give them more freedom (Gross). They have a lot of charm and are considered quite likeable, therefore it’s not surprising that youngest children are often found in the entertainment industry, working as actors or comedians (Gross). Youngest children truly feel secure and supported within their home because parents often make them feel special and spoil them (Gross).

 

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Reading Response #11, comments on Emilie Quilliams’ second draft

Your paper contains a lot of interesting points, both positive and negative about living in the city vs the country. I would add more statistics to back up your information, maybe some statistics about safety? Although children in the city seem to have more independence, that independence could come with a higher risk of being kidnapped. Although you don’t want your paper to be dreary, it is something to consider. As well, it would be interesting to expand on the suburban aspect because they are like a “happy medium” between city and country. I grew up in suburb, and I can say that yes there are similar designs for houses, but there are also huge backyards with pools for kids to play in and large parks for everyone to enjoy. Also, grocery stores and cinemas can be anywhere from 2 minutes from your house to 20. The lack of schools in the country is also an interesting aspect to your paper. You show this as a positive to the country because all of your friends go to the same school but the large amount of schools in the city can also be viewed positively because then children and parents have more choice. Some high schools also focus on specific things, for example the arts or sports so if a child is really interested in that it would be a beneficial and rewarding experience for them to go there. All in all, your paper has some convincing arguments as to why neither the country nor the city are a perfect place to live, but they both have benefits.

Lab #10

Although I’ve uncovered possible reasons for the animosity between my brother and I, I still don’t know how to resolve it. At our age, our personalities are very ingrained and changing them would be difficult. But I think it’s worth the effort because siblings are the only ones who can commiserate with you about your childhood. A tough divorce; your siblings went through it as well. Strict parents; your sibling learned how to break the same rules as you. A death in the family; your sibling grieved as you did. And while we will make new families, that doesn’t mean that the old one should be forgotten. I know that my brother will always be involved in my life and not because he has to be, but because I want him to be. He has taught me how to fight and stand up for myself, as well as how to back down and admit defeat. “Having a brother has toughened me up; I’m strong physically and emotionally because of it”. I’ve now realized that while my sister has been beside me supporting me throughout life, my brother has been behind me, pushing me and making sure I’m strong enough to deal with what will come in the future.

Lab #8

Part One

1. Are siblings of the same gender more inclined to have a closer relationship?

  • Does gender affect the relationship between siblings?
  • Do other factors affect them such as age gap?
  • Do the relationships we have when were young, effect who we are as adults?
  • Are we born with our personality or is it derived from our experiences and our relationships?
  • Can we change who we are?

Part Two and Three

  1. Brother leaving for University
  2. Sister leaving for University
  3. The house atmosphere after their departure
  4. Common sibling experiences that everyone with a sibling can relate too (fights, moments of togetherness, etc…)

Part Four

1. Opening:
a. I will open by contrasting the two different reactions that I had towards my brother and my sister leaving for University.
2. “Nut Graph”:
a. I am going to relate this back to gender and if it affects our relationships and how these early relationships can effect us as adults later in life.
3. Sub-argument #1:
a. That gender affects the quality of relationship between siblings.
b. I will contrast the relationship I have with my brother to the one I have with my sister and their departure for University as an anecdote.
c. Might be illuminating to talk about my interviewees response to whether or not she wishes she had a sister and how she thinks this might have changed her life.
d. I will be using research that shows that siblings of the same gender are more likely to develop relationships with more warmth and intimacy however this research also shows that the closer the same gender siblings are in age the more likely they are to be competitive with each other especially throughout adolescence.
e. This will lead into my next point that the age gap between siblings has an effect on the relationship.
4. Sub-argument #2: Same criteria as above.
5. Sub-argument #3: Same criteria as above
6. Sub-argument #4: Same criteria as above
7. (repeat for as many sub-arguments as you have)
8. Ending: Will you refer back to your beginning? How? How will you close off on
a satisfying note?

Lab #6

Step One

My program of study contains general social science classes that focus specifically on children and their development.

Step Two

This topic would appeal to a broad audience because it focuses on family and how your gender may affect what kind of relationship you form with them.

Step Three

Families online magazine 

Family Circle

Parents Canada

Step Four

It was only 10 am but the sun was already shinning, beating down on my face and making a trickle of sweat fall down the back of my neck. The feel of the cool, damp grass on the back of my legs was a sweet relief in contrast to the stuffy, humid air that made everyone trying to breathe feel like they had asthma. I sat under the shade of a tree, tearing grass from the ground as I watched the proceedings occurring on the driveway. Our black SUV sat in the driveway with every door open on it, including the trunk. This had two purposes to it; to air out the hot stuffy car and to have access to every possible space in the vehicle to pack my brothers bags in. The rest of the family was in a rush due to the fact that we meandered our way through breakfast. I could still taste the syrup in my mouth and the smell of french toast lingered in the air. I sighed and leaned back on my elbows to observe some more. I could feel aunts crawling over my legs but I made no move to wipe them away, basking in my calmness and relaxed demeanor. I was brought out of my musing by the sound of the car doors slamming. I pulled myself off of the ground, wipe the dirt off my butt, and walked over to join the rest of my family. I met my brothers gaze, a face that resembles my own almost identically, and wished him good luck in Florida.

Step Five 

The car murmured as my sister drove at a comfortable pace for this time of year. It was just before noon on a cold January day, and the roads were covered with a fine layer of snow we received last night. The sun was blazing, it’s rays reflecting off of the snow. I had forgotten my sunglasses and blamed my tears on the blinding light, but my sister and I both knew that wasn’t the truth. The radio was set to my favorite station, but I didn’t feel like paying any attention to it, much less sing along like I normally would. It simply played in the background, wiping out the silence that surrounded us. I stared out of my window, watching the scenery fly by, bringing us closer to our destination. Neither of us said a word, not sure how to say goodbye to each other, even if just temporarily. As she pulled into the train station and put the car into park we both say there. The silence more deafening in this moment then it had been the entire drive. We both waited for the other one to say something.

Step Six

Abstract Concepts:  love, comfort, despair

Love is like a headache because when you have one, you feel it all the time and can’t ignore it.

Comfort is like having a warm blanket wrapped around you when you’re cold because you feel it everywhere and it makes everything better.

Despair is like drowning because you know how to make everything better but there’s nothing you can do.

 

 

Lab #5

Step 1.

I definitely think the author adds research and information into his article seamlessly because I had to go back and actually look to find the research. While I was reading I didn’t even notice that research was being put in. Looking back, I found information from two studies, quotes from two “experts” and countless statistics about the percentage of people tipping and how much. The author doesn’t give an overload of statistics but just enough to support his argument and make you feel as if he did do research and he does have information to back up his point. The author used mainly studies done by Iowa State University and a tech research firm, two fairly reliable places to get information from. I also noticed that the author would present information and research found, and the proceed to comment on that research which I think is a better way to do it than to present a thought and support it by research.

Step 2.

Sibling relationships has become a main focus over the past few decades for both sociologists, psychologists and the everyday person, mainly because this is a topic that effects many of us. Approximately eighty percent of Americans have at least one sibling, and many more have step-siblings they’ve grown up with. Although many of us fight with our siblings, we still feel this obligation and love towards them. This is because although you feel like your siblings may cause you a lot of stress, there are many benefits to having a sibling. To start, siblings serve as a buffer for a lot of stress that can occur within a family. They can help you stand up for yourself in arguments with your parents or be your comfort if your parents split up. When it comes to family issues, they are the only ones going through the exact same thing as you are. Siblings provide good practice for learning how to solve disputes which will benefit you in your future relationships. When we get into a fight with a sibling we can’t just avoid them for the rest of our life, especially if you still live in the same house. This forces us to learn how to compromise and solve disputes, a skill that will serve you well in future romantic relationships. Many only-children aren’t used to sharing or compromising with someone else and this can have an effect on their future relationships where compromise is essential. For those of us who have an older sibling, we’re even luckier! Research has shown that children with older siblings are more likely to reach milestones, such as walking or talking, before children without. This is because as children, we look up to our older siblings and want to be just like them. If our older brother is walking, we want to walk as well! The complete opposite happens once we hit the teens, we usually want to be nothing like our older siblings because that gives our parents more to compare us on. And although your parents have probably denied it countless amount of times, research has shown that sixty-five percent of mothers and seventy percent of fathers do have a favorite child. Children are aware of this and this effects the non-favorite child’s self esteem in the long run.

“How do people make it through life without a sister?” – Sara Corpening

This is the question I often ask myself whenever my sister has my back, which is always. Who do only children talk to when their parents are being unreasonable? Or when their parents get divorced? Or when they get home from a long day at school and need someone to talk to? Friends are great for all these things. But siblings are there through it all. Somehow siblings manage to be your best friend and worst enemy all at the same time. Somehow we manage to love our siblings and hate them at once.

Lab #4

Part Two

“Before 1994, diabetes in children was generally caused by a genetic disorder — only about 5 percent of childhood cases were obesity-related, or Type 2, diabetes. Today, according to the National Institutes of Health, Type 2 diabetes accounts for at least 30 percent of all new childhood cases of diabetes in this country.”

Part Three

“I tend to sympathize with these portly fast-food patrons, though. Maybe that’s because I used to be one of them.”

Part Four

“But where, exactly, are consumers — particularly teenagers — supposed to find alternatives? Drive down any thoroughfare in America, and I guarantee you’ll see one of our country’s more than 13,000 McDonald’s restaurants. Now, drive back up the block and try to find someplace to buy a grapefruit.”

Part Five

“Kids taking on McDonald’s this week, suing the company for making them fat. Isn’t that like middle-aged men suing Porsche for making them get speeding tickets?”

Part Six

Siblings relationships are some of the longest and most influential relationships we will be apart of throughout our lives. Whether or not your relationship with your siblings was filled with conflict can effect conflict in later romantic relationships. In a study done by Shalash, Wood, and Parker, revealed that specific types of conflict that are common in sibling relationships during childhood and adolescence are often the same types of conflict seen in future adult romantic relationships. Their study involved data from a hundred and forty four cases and each participant was given a questionnaire to fill out concerning their relationship with their closest sibling. They found that the highest correlation was found with avoid and attack conflict styles.

Part Seven

As the youngest child in my family, I have had a relationship with my siblings for my entire life. I also have a brother and a sister so I have experience with siblings of both genders. Both of my siblings have left  the house for university and their departure and my reaction to it leaves me questioning how these relationships have effected me for the rest of my adult life.

Part Eight

Imagine you’re the baby of the family. You’ve looked up to your siblings your whole life, following their lead and admiring every action they do. And suddenly, the people that you’ve looked up to your whole life, are gone. Disappeared. they left you for bigger and better things, university. You’ve never had to fend for yourself, you’ve always had someone to defend you and look out for you but now you’re left to your own devices.

Part Nine

Having a sibling move to another continent to attend university is emotionally painful. It’s like loosing an arm, something that has been part of you all your life.